Gratitude Changes the Atmosphere of a Marriage
James & Carletta Youngs
Did you know gratitude often has a quiet power that is beneficial to our relationships. When you show love and appreciation for the everyday, big and small things your spouse does, it builds connection and softens tension. Why is gratitude important? Because we all should remember that even everyday, ordinary tasks we do in our home for one another are acts of love.
When couples focus on what is positive, instead of what is negative, and what they are thankful for, instead of what is missing, something beautiful happens. Criticism loses volume as tenderness and connection increases. And while gratitude doesn’t ignore challenges, it helps minimize how challenges define your whole relationship.
In our own journey, I’ve learned that expressing appreciation to James lets him know that i don't take him for granted. It reminds James that his contributions matter. And the same for me. And that’s why I started the 10-day gratitude challenge.
Reflection Tip
Today, express an appreciation to your spouse without being general. Instead of “thank you for everything,” try “I really appreciate how patient you were with me this week.”
Prayer
God, open our eyes to the good in our marriage. Help us to notice the quiet ways we care for one another. Soften our hearts through gratitude. Strengthen our connection through appreciation. Amen.
