Gratitude Changes the Atmosphere of a Marriage
Did you know gratitude often has a quiet power that is beneficial to our relationships. When you show love and appreciation for the everyday, big and small things your spouse does, it builds connection and softens tension. Why is gratitude important? Because we all should remember that even everyday, ordinary tasks we do in our home for one another are acts of love.
When couples focus on what is positive, instead of what is negative, and what they are thankful for, instead of what is missing, something beautiful happens. Criticism loses volume as tenderness and connection increases. And while gratitude doesn’t ignore challenges, it helps minimize how challenges define your whole relationship.
In our own journey, I’ve learned that expressing appreciation to James lets him know that i don't take him for granted. It reminds James that his contributions matter. And the same for me. And that’s why I started the 10-day gratitude challenge.
Reflection Tip
Day 7: Recommitting to God at the Center
Scripture: “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” — Psalm 127:1 (NIV)
Reflection: Strong marriages are built when God is at the center. This year, we want to be intentional about keeping God at the center of our relationship instead of keeping life so busy that God is placed on the sidelines, waiting to be put in the game. Today, we recommit our covenant to God. We choose one another daily, and commit to the work of strengthening our marriages day-after-day. We recommit to protecting the priority of our marriage, with God at the center.
Prayer: God, we place our marriage fully in Your hands. Lead us, strengthen us, and continue writing our love story. Amen.
Intentional Action: Holding hands, reaffirm your commitment to God and to each other out loud.
Day 6: Choosing Love on Purpose
Scripture: “Let all that you do be done in love.” — 1 Corinthians 16:14 (NIV)
Reflection: Love isn’t sustained by feelings alone. It’s strengthened by daily, intentional choices, especially when it’s not easy. Consider this, how you treat and honor your spouse is a ministry, first to your spouse, your children, your family, and then, externally. All that you do, should be done in love. Imagine how you could transform your relationship to something enjoyable, loving, peaceful, and growing. When you choose love on purpose, desired relationship characteristics become the fruit of your effort.
Prayer: Lord, help us choose love today. In our words, our actions, and our attitudes. Allow us to glorify you with our marriages. Amen.
Intentional Action: Do one intentional act of love without expecting anything in return.