The Organic Process of Connection

Connection is not automatic. It unfolds with acts of love that creates something positive and lasting. When you enjoy getting to know one another, everyday, regardless of how long you’ve known each other, is how you naturally create connection. But the journey is what creates the memories and the moments you eventually cherish. Then, before you know it, your connection leads to a serious relationship.

As couples begin living together, life is a lot different than dating. You’re in a different phase of learning one another. If you haven’t already, it is the important time to understand how your spouse processes conflict, the hot zones of their past and how a spouse’s past shapes their present responses. Take time to learn what makes them feel safe. Some of each other’s personal information becomes apparent as you grow and spend a lot of time together. It is the wonderful, organic process of connection.

The benefit of going through the process of connection, building a strong relationship, and learning how you both handle disappoint and challenges will allow you to survive, and even build relationship strength during difficult seasons. The process doesn’t have to feel uncomfortable. Yes, difficult seasons may require work in the sense of being intentional about two people coming together to make needed adjustments to grow. Understand that working to build a strong, healthy, thriving relationship may be tiring and even feel like work sometimes. But the good news is that you can get excited about the outcome because growth rarely feels effortless.