The Power of Choosing Love in Conflict

“Above all, put on love, which binds everything together in perfect unity.” (Colossians 3:14)

When love feels effortless, it’s pleasant. But when love feels costly, it’s powerful. And when we choose to love in those difficult moments, in the midst of conflict, we are not just preserving our marriages but are reflecting the heart of God whose love for us never depends on how lovable we are.

Psychologist Dr. John Gottman, who has studied marriages for over 40 years, discovered that couples who are successful don’t avoid conflict but choose kindness, patience, and respect in moments when anger or pride could take over. Studies show the heartbeat of lasting marriages is