Our Blended Family: God never wastes pain

Marriage and creating a family, even a blended family, should be like mixing two colors of paint — once you mix paint together, you can’t separate them again. Getting paint colors to blend evenly sometimes takes time and even patience. This is also true for couples bringing themselves and any children from another partner into a family. In fact, it not only takes time and patience, but a whole lot of grace as well.

We know this because we lived it. When my first marriage ended, I never imagined I would experience love again. But God, in His mercy, forgave my divorce, healed my brokenness, and allowed me to experience love and covenant as He designed marriage. It is true. God is a God of healing, hope, and second chances.

Blended families can be quite complex. There are schedules to manage, emotions to soothe, loyalties to balance, and hearts to heal. The truth is, every person in a blended family has experienced some form of hurt or loss — divorce, separation, time, space, and or unmet expectations.

But here’s the beautiful thing: God never wastes pain. He can take what’s fractured and form something stronger than before. When love and marriage uses God’s design for covenant as its foundation, the relationship and family becomes strong, healthy, happy, and blended - better than you could ever imagine.

Reflection Question:
Are you approaching marriage God’s way or your way ? Take time to pray and ask God to strengthen everyone affected by your union.

Visit covenantstrong.org to explore resources that help couples rediscover God’s plan and purpose for their marriage.